{FF} What Are You Worth?

You’ve made some tough mistakes in the past. Are you worth loving? You’ve lost your job. Does that lower your value? You aren’t the most popular blogger. Does that mean you don’t matter?

We all have aspects of our lives that we base our worth and value in — success, money, popularity, beauty, athleticism, health, gifts and talents, etc. What happens when those things are gone? It is inevitable that you grow old and lose your “beauty”, it is inevitable that you eventually lose your ability to work, so does that mean it is inevitable that you become worthless? 

I’ve been reading the book “Searching for Significance” and it has made me more aware of some of the destructive thoughts that creep into my head. You really don’t realize how much damaging self-talk you do to yourself until you stop and think about it. I find myself constantly comparing myself to others in my appearance, my abilities, and my success — making my value dependent on my actions and the opinion of others. With that mentality, I continue to eagerly strive for perfection and acceptance while fearing the times of public failure and essentially the loss of my self-worth and significance. 

What I feel like I have forgotten, as do most people, is the fact that our worth is not in what we do or in what we look like.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7

If it was so, again just like what I said previously, we are doomed then to become worthless. So then how can we prevent this from happening? What then can we say our identity lies in that is sustaining and healthy?

The only way we we never lose value is if our identity lies in Jesus Christ. 

Romans 8:38-39 says For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future,nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

We forget that we are loved unconditionally. We forget that Christ paid our price in death. We forget that He is calling us to live in Him and have an identity in Him that is complete.

Let us not forget. 

For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace” – Ephesians 1:4-7

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Have a blessed weekend!  

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Another Day, Another Dress

I don’t know what it is about yellow and cobalt, but I absolutely love the combo. Hence this is the second post with the same color combo, and maybe even a third one on the way! ;)

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The dress I am wearing today is an old Anthropologie find. I usually wear this dress for more formal occasions, but if you haven’t noticed, I like to convert nice dresses into more everyday wear. More bang for your buck, right?

1. The Red Brocade // 2. Wicked in Green  // 3. Hat Happy

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And you’re probably sick of seeing me style this denim jacket, but don’t you think it’s a great way to casual-fy a dress or to throw on for a nice summer/spring look?

1. Pink Lemonade // 2. The Tulle Skirt // 3. Itty-Bitty Polka Dottie

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Dress: Anthropologie – Similar $284 or THIS one for $99 // Denim Jacket: Thrifted – Similar $70 // Shoes: J. Crew – Similar $33 // Purse: Coach // Necklace: Talbots – Similar $38 // Bracelets: J. Crew , Forever 21 // CuffCrystal Hexagon Cuff from INPINK $18 // Belt: Thrifted from Crossroads

Because I just recently moved to a new place and am a new professional, I need to watch my spending a little. No more purchasing to keep up with the latest trends, no more emotional shopping, and no more thoughtless buys.

To help control my spending, I always ask myself three questions before I swipe the card:

1. Is it versatile? {whether or not I can dress it up or down, multiple seasons}
2. Do I have at least 5 items already in my closet to mix & match with it?
3. Do I LOVE it? {emphasis on the LOVE, not just like}

What are some questions that you ask yourself before you purchase something?

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Let’s Go Back to White and Black

 Summer is all about the colors and the prints, but my eyes were starting to hurt a little bit from the overload and therefore today’s outfit is all about keeping it simple with black and white. Can’t go wrong, right?

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Top Sleeveless Shirt in White c/o Boden {sale! $21-$43} // Skirt Anthropologie {old} – Similar (only $29!) // Shoes My Delicious c/o Lulu*s $24 // Cuff Crystal Hexagon Cuff from INPINK $18 // Bracelet Juicy Couture - Similar // Clutch H&M {sold out} - Similar

Minimal look. Minimal words. 

Happy Minimal Monday! 

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{FF} The Good End of Busy

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Let’s be real. Society now has become crazy busy. Whether you are a toddler or in your 50′s, I’m sure your schedule is packed. But the real question is what is your schedule packed with? Is it your job, family, social media, TV, extra-curricular activities, hobbies, etc? Is what you are doing building the Kingdom of God? 

I had a conversation with a friend the other day about the busyness. She said “You know…Satan is keeping himself busy trying to undo God’s work. So if we are going to be busy, let us be busy with the Lord’s work.” And how true is that? Satan is continuously finding ways to sneak in and cause destruction, doubt, depression, etc. (1 Peter 5:8) “But if we are constantly filling ourselves with God’s light as well as intentionally expelling His love towards others, Satan will have no room to enter.”

Now, I am not saying to work yourself into the ground volunteering for everything at church or continuously be on the go and not rest. I am saying to check yourself and make sure that your goal and priority in life is to further the Kingdom.

Colossians 3:17 “And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

I’ve just recently read the book “Crazy Busy” by Kevin DeYoung. In chapter 10, DeYoung mentions the story of Mary and Martha. Short version: Jesus came over to Mary and Martha’s house. Martha was busy cooking and preparing for Jesus’ visit, while Mary sat at Jesus’ feet. Then Jesus calls Martha out and says “Martha, Martha, You are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41 . 

I really like how DeYoung paraphrased it “Your busyness is not wrong. But it is not best.” He continues to say that the key word here is “distracted.” “Martha isn’t doing anything bad. She’s just being pulled away from what is better.

I encourage you this next week to not be distracted by meaningless things, but point your eyes towards what is better and to utilize your time for the glory of God.

Have a great weekend! :)

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Anticipating Fall

For some reason the weather here in the Bay Area has taken an odd turn — gray skies and less sun. These gray skies do not help my itching anticipation for fall at all. Remember this dress that I wore this past fall/winter? Well, I decided to take it out again but added a colorful scarf to brighten it up a bit and make it season appropriate. My shoes on the other hand…sorry, I couldn’t help but break these out.

Waiting till fall was like having a bowl of mint-chocolate-chip ice cream on the table in front of you. My advice: just have the ice cream.DSC_2857 DSC_2863 DSC_2892 DSC_2888 DSC_2896 DSC_2903 DSC_2926 DSC_2935

Dress
Wearing: Urban Outfitters
My Picks: ASOS $38 (3/4 sleeve) // ASOS $38 (sleeveless)

Scarf
Wearing: Talbots
My Picks: ModCloth $18 // Fashion Confections $18 // Stella Dot $58

Oxfords
Wearing: Aldo

Earrings
Wearing: Anthropologie
My Picks: Shop Lately $7 // Anthropologie $38

Purse
Wearing: Vintage Coach

Oh and did you notice that I just started a Pinterest? :) Right now my following number is at a measly number of ZERO, so give a girl some love and follow and pin away! :)

Thanks for taking the time to read! :)

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Classy with a Splash of Blue

Happy Monday! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend that prepared you for another week!

At the age of 24, sometimes I feel as though I need to dress a little more professional to reflect my age and to compensate for my high-school-looking face. So here it is folks. :) Funny story about this outfit…I went to do some errands with my mom and she needed to return something at Talbots so we went. I told her that I would wait in the car because I didn’t want to be tempted into spending more money. She says, “Oh we’re only going to go into ONE store, and it’s Talbots! Not really your store.” So thinking that my wallet was safe, I decided to go in with her. Sure enough, just like Rebecca Bloomwood in Confessions of a Shopaholic, the racks were calling my name and yes, I came out with a full outfit. 

Justifiably though, I do need to look more professional at work because who wants to show up to school with the same outfit as your student? (Which has happened by the way). 

**By the way, I really do like Talbots. I usually am able to find a handful of pieces that work with my style and the quality of their clothes are quite decent. I am especially fond of their jewelry and shoes. 

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I also walked out of Talbots with a pair of really cute wedges, but it was a grey tone. Since this outfit was pretty neutral, I wanted to make it a little fun with a pop of color so I opted with my favorite bright blue heels from J. Crew. 

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Top: Talbots {sold out online} - Similar // Skirt: Talbots {sold out online} - Similar // Shoes: J. Crew - Similar // Purse: Vintage Coach // Bracelets: J. Crew - Similar // Earrings: Crystal Petal Studs c/o Trendy Trinkets // Rings: Vintage // Necklace: Talbots - Similar

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Lesson learned – Stay in the car. :P

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{FF} God’s Goodness Always Prevails

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Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads struggling to make a decision where neither choice can be considered right or wrong, but it’s a question of which path you would like to take?

The past couple of months I have been trying to practice listening to the Lord’s voice and learning to discern between His voice, my voice, and the world’s voice. It’s definitely easier said than done. When I found myself at a crossroads, I began to stress and worry that I would make the “wrong” decision and forever be away from the Lord’s will for my life. Honestly when looking back, I regret wasting my time and energy worrying. I forgot that God’s goodness and purpose will always prevail in anything. I am not saying to not think through your decisions with the mentality “Anything I do, God can use for good” which is definitely true, but he also encourages having wisdom and discernment so don’t just go out on a whim and make random decisions left and right. :P

There are such a thing as right and wrong choices, but for those choices that are neither and just a cause for growth and change, this is what I’ve learned and am trying to remember:

1. God’s purpose and will for your life will come through.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21

2. God is good, so trust Him.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

3. God should be your goal. Make your decisions with that perspective.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:33-34

I pray and hope that this encourages you throughout this next week. <3

Have a wonderful weekend!